Keep your young teenager’s skin youthful and free of blemishes with these simply, easy-to-follow tips.
Flawless skin, zero wrinkles, the ability to experiment with make-up are all part and parcel of youthful skin – the kind you wear with pride from the time you turn a teenager to when you hit your late 20s. But they too come with their own set of baggage. Easy susceptibility to zits and pimples and a face that suddenly develops a mind of its own, oily one day and dry as a bone the next. So what does a teenager do? Here’s how to make sure your skin always stays flawless:
The Essential Must-Knows For Flawless Skin
1. Hygiene is of utmost importance. If the hormonal changes have caused the skin to be sensitive, use cleanser. Do not rub the skin hard. Wash it often enough only to remove excess oil. Otherwise you are unnecessarily over-drying the skin and may change its pH. Lowering the pH can make the skin sensitive and also more vulnerable to infection.
2. Use a thick coat of a suitable sunscreen at least 2-3 times a day regardless of its PSF (sun protection factor).
3. If you have oily skin, use an oil free day-time moisturiser that has an SPF 15. Exposure to sun can lead to discolouration and acne.
4. It’s important to keep your skin clean with a suitable face wash.
5. Remember to use a good oil free sunscreen on face and neck, 2-3 times a day.
6. Dandruff is most definitely your biggest enemy. So use an anti-dandruff shampoo at least once a week.
7. By the time you hit your late teens, start using eye creams and lip balms with SPF. If you are the outdoorsy sporty type then always remember to rub on some oil-free sunscreen or sunblock with SPF 30 when heading out.
8. Remember if you are prone to acne, oily products are an absolute no-no. Stay away from the hair spray and gel. They have oils that are the reason you break out on the forehead or around your hairline. But if you absolutely need that perfect hairspray then try keeping them away from your face. Cover your face with a towel when you’re spraying on the hair spray.
9. Use a face mask or a gentle exfoliator once a week to remove dead skin. These are treatments and not just cleansers so ensure that you use them on clean, damp skin.
10. If your skin tends to break out easily and often then avoid tight caps or bandanas on your head. Wear loose shirts and stay away from tight outfits that don’t allow your skin to breathe.
11. And this is definitely a no-no. Stop squeezing or pressing the pimples. This could scar the surrounding normal tissue too.
12. Don’t wash your face too often. It can cause skin irritation.
From Baba Amte to Mother Teresa and Bill gates, we’ve always admired those who are kind and giving. Now we’re discovering that kindness will not only make you happier, it might just help you live longer. So many things that make life rough around the edges, an indiscriminate dent in your car, a door slammed in your face, are due to lack of consideration. Imagine, for a minute, a world where everyone is just a little kinder. When you’re trying to merge in traffic, someone lets you in. At the supermarket, you allow a person in a hurry to go ahead of you. A new theory called ‘survival of the nicest’ says that because of kindness, the human race prospered as a species. In ancient societies, kindness was a key component of the survival of communities. Groups with many altruists tend to survive.
In other words, we have an in-built capacity to help others, especially those close to us, to ensure the survival of our community.
Give And Receive
Research shows kindness can also make us happier. It makes no difference to your happiness if you help a loved one or a stranger, but it may have different results. A small, anonymous act might make you feel like a good person. But a big kind act to an acquaintance may have social consequences: you might make a new friend or be generously thanked. So paying for a stranger’s coffee may give you a temporary buzz, but helping an elderly neighbour to shop may help you forge a better relationship. Kindness is good for you in other ways. Being kind is good for your health. A study found that those who regularly helped others had better mental health and lower rates of depression. Other studies found helpful people were less likely to fall ill from chronic diseases, and tended to have better immune systems. A strong correlation exists between the wellbeing, happiness and health of people who are kind. Kindness can help regulate emotions, which has a positive impact on our health. If our in-built ‘fight or flight’ response becomes overactive due to stress, it affects our cardiovascular system and weakens the body’s immunity. It’s difficult to be angry, resentful, or fearful when one is showing unselfish love towards another person.
It Can Be Tough
Kindness may be a virtue, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. There’s some level of cynicism towards kindness. The label ‘do-gooder’ isn’t a compliment. We all like the idea of being kind, but at the same time, don’t nice guys always finish last? Acting from the goodness of your heart goes directly against the ‘survival of the fittest’ theory of evolution, which says that humans are driven to compete for existence quite selfishly. Back in 1968, the researchers Bibb Latane and John Darley discovered a phenomenon known as the ‘bystander effect’: When someone needs help in a public place, they are less likely to receive help if there are more people around. Researchers believe that the effect arises because everyone takes their cue from the crowd and assumes someone else will take responsibility. In big cities, people may also feel unsafe interacting with strangers.
Feel-good Factor
But none of the above explains why we are kind when we choose to be. Sana Murad made one of the greatest sacrifices possible for someone she loved, she donated a kidney to her 57-year-old father. “It was one of the easiest things I’ve ever had to decide,” says she. It was a profound act of kindness, but one she feels she could do only for a loved one. “I don’t know why, but I don’t think I could have just randomly given a kidney away - I would probably only consider it for a family member,” she says. “At the same time, giving my dad my kidney did help someone else, because dad’s no longer on the organ donor waiting list, so someone can take his place.”
Sana’s father may be able to thank his genes twice over for his daughter’s kindness. A 2005 study found a link between kindness and a gene that releases dopamine, a feel good neurotransmitter in the brain. A research found that helpers reported a distinct physical sensation when being kind. Many reported feeling more energetic, warm, calmer and greater self-worth, a phenomenon he calls the ‘helper’s high. Some scientists say that because we’re altruistic only for the good of the group and to get a dopamine rush, it means kindness is actually, well, selfish. Probably most altruism is self-interest at some level.
Giving Freely
Kindness has another similarity with happiness - it can’t be bought. Economists often make the mistake of assuming people are inherently selfish and that we will only do something good for a financial reward or to avoid a fine. But a report, published last year, found otherwise.The report was about a research on six childcare centres that started inflicting fines on parents who were late picking up their children. After the fines were introduced, parents were twice as likely to be late. A similar study also found women were actually less likely to donate blood if they were paid.
We resent the idea that our principles can be bought: we prefer to do good deeds for their own sake. People enjoy being kind to others much as they enjoy eating ice-cream. It gives us pleasure.
Little Seeds Of Love
One synonym for the word kindness is the term humanity. Kindness is essentially a recognition of the fact that we’re all human, an acknowledgement that we’re all in this together. Most of what makes life worth living depends on at least some of us being altruistic some of the time. We cannot address problems like global climate change, the spread of disease and political violence by appealing only to selfish motives.
The good news is that it’s easy to train ourselves to the kinder. People should simply do more acts of kindness than they usually do, and do them on a regular basis, like five sets of kindness every Monday. Kindness, then, is just a matter of choice, an attitude you carry with you that you can make a difference, however small, in someone else’s life. Kindness has to begin within ourselves. Sometimes we keep people out to keep ourselves safe, but that also isolates us from the rest of the world. Every major religion has love as a universal principle. Kindness takes love to a gentler and more accessible level that most people feel comfortable with. Showing a little bit of kindness to people recognises that everyone around you is just like yourself.
If you had to think about that question, chances are you need to take our quiz. Because understanding the dynamics of your friendships will make them stronger.
Take a minute to think about your best friend. Really think about her. What’s the first thing that comes to mind? Trust? Loyalty? Competitiveness? Annoyance? As dark as it sounds, many of our friendships are subconsciously based on underlying themes of envy (when her man whisked her off abroad), dislike and anger (how come her love life takes up all your energy?). These negative emotions can either knit the relationship together or, if suppressed, bubble over into blazing rows and week-long sulks.
Although it’s normal to not love everyone 24/7, remember that the friendships you cultivate – and how you deal with them – actually speak volumes about you. But whatever your bond is built on, there is a way to make it unbreakable. Simply take our quiz, with one specific friend in mind (begin with your best friend), for advice on how to have a healthier, happier friendship, starting today.
The Friendship Test
1. Your friend tells you she’s going on a diet for your holiday together. Do you:
A. Tell her she looks fantastic the size she is.
B. Make all the right noises but find yourself tempting her with an odd chocolate or two.
C. Worry that she’ll look better on the beach than you.
D. Offer encouragement and buy her diet books and some state-of-the-art bathroom scales.
2. Your friend buys you anti-wrinkle cream for your birthday. You think:
A. It’s a joke. You’ll get her a bus-pass holder!
B. You’re delighted. It’s an expensive brand and an incredible treat.
C. You take it as an insult and start planning how to let her know you’re offended.
D. You book yourself in for Botox immediately.
3. Your friend has been made redundant and asks if there are any jobs at your firm. You:
A. Not only ask HR, but put in a glowing. recommendation for her as well.
B. Lie and say there are no vacancies. She’s a great mate, but you’re not sure she’s got what it takes.
C. Wonder why she’s muscling in on your territory.
D. Start planning all the fun you’ll have together on your lunch breaks.
4. How would you describe the way your friend looks?
A. Most people take you for sisters.
B. Equally attractive and as stylish as you, but with different colouring.
C. Very different to you, but your looks complement each other.
D. Gorgeous! You’re proud that she’s your friend.
5. Your parents’/partner’s attitude to your friend is:
A. That she’s OK, but sometimes they joke she’s a bit of a bad influence.
B. That she’s part of the family.
C. So-so, You find yourself having to stand up for her quite a lot.
D. Great. Sometimes they seem to like her more than you do!
6. You would describe your falling-outs as:
A. Epic. They tend to flare up over perceived slights and then last for months at a time.
B. Small irritations. She has a few traits or habits that you find annoying now and again, but your rarely say or do anything about them.
C. You don’t fall out. You never let it get to that stage.
D. You shout and row occasionally, but you always hug and make up right away.
7. How do you normally communicate with each other?
A. Text and email. It’s your own personal blogging system and you miss nothing during the day.
B. You always phone, at least once a week or more.
C. You meet up and do your talking face-to-face.
D. It’s almost by osmosis. Even if you don’t see her for a while you can always guess how she’s feeling.
8. How do you think your friends would describe you?
A. Funny, loud, spontaneous.
B. Successful, dynamic.
C. Someone who understands them and is always there for them.
D. Paranoid, insecure and in need of regular cheering up.
0-25
Suppressed Friendship
You’re aware your friend can be annoying but you’re avoiding conflict to the point where you’re in danger of turning passive-aggressive, i.e. sitting on a whole barrel-load of simmering resentments until they boil over into one great potentially lethal row.
Why do you find your friend so difficult to talk to? You’re happy to chat about other problems with her, but not the one that’s bugging you the most, which is her. Your desire for approval and avoidance of any communication that might compromise the ‘serene’ nature of your relationship needs some analysis – is your friend dominating your life? Does she call the shots over most of the major decisions? Fear seems to be a big factor here, which is rarely a good basis for a strong friendship.
How To Reboot This Friendship
First, write down a list of all the things your friend does that you feel are unfair or that irritate you. Now delete anything that you feel is more about you – i.e. anything that most people would judge to be normal. Next discuss problems calmly, face to face, but focus on future change rather than old whinges. Let her know all the things you value about her as a friend.
26-49
Competitive Friendship
You’re the Blair and Serena of the friendship world, warring your way through life and seeing your friend as part mate, part rival. In many ways you’d die for each other, but sometimes you’d happily kill each other, too! Trust can be an issue with you. Would you really trust your friend alone with your man? Probably not. But then she probably wouldn’t trust you either.
You use this friendship to achieve success in your life – allowing emotions like jealousy to spur you on to achieve more – or you secretly like it because, despite the rows, you know life’s never boring with her.
How To Make This Relationship More Positive
Competitive friendships tend to survive best when there is space for developing separate areas of accomplishment. Discover individual strengths and talents that you can pursue (rather than following each other through life) and that should build respect rather than envy. And remember to praise your friend when she achieves her dreams!
50-80
Balanced Friendship
Your friendship is based on honesty and trust, which means you know your friend’s there for you, but you don’t abuse that facility. If you do ever fall out, you make up fast, and before any damage is done. There’s a lot of compromise in your relationship. You may contribute different things, but you bring equal amounts and your relationship is complementary and fair.
How To Sustain This Relationship
Take some time to analyse your friendship and its greatest value or role in your life. Is it based mainly on fun and socialising? Business and career discussions? Take note of how much time is invested in each aspect and then see how the other three could also become staples in your relationship, if necessary. Could you provide better emotional support by honing your listening skills? Could you discover more about your friend’s career or life plans? Do you need to beef up the socialising, going out together at least one night a week? Any work will help make your relationship multi-dimensional, meaning fewer feelings of loss when either of you take a change of direction in your lives.
Is your beauty bag bulging with products you never use? We reveal the latest essentials that will revolutionise your look!
What’s lurking in the bottom of your make-up bag? For many of us, the answer would be a few genuine essential items, which are far outnumbered by powders that don’t match our colouring and a multitude of unused lipsticks that looked great in the shop, but not on.
If you don’t look better, younger or fresher when you apply your make-up, it’s time to rethink what you keep in your kit. Beauty counters are literally packed with promising new products in gorgeous colours - why, then, do many of us find overhauling our choices so daunting?
Most of us tend to stick with products we find easy to use, or hold on to just in case we ever need them. However, just changing a few items is all that’s needed to totally revitalise your look.
Read on to find out which products to ditch and which to save, as well as the new core essentials every woman should have in her kit to help her look beautiful every day.
Your Make-Up Amnesty
Tip out all your products and ask yourself the following questions for each one:Is it past its prime? Here’s a general shelf-life rule: Foundation, concealer, lipgloss and lipstick have a life of up to 18 months, and it’s okay to keep powder, blusher and bronzer for up to two years. Eyeliner and eye shadow have just a year, while it’s time to buy mascara after six months.
Is it an expensive mistake? Foundations and lipsticks tend to be the most common beauty blunders, as we often buy the wrong shades. It is suggested to keep lipsticks to mix together for a new shade, but sometimes you have to be brutal. If a foundation is the wrong shade for your skin, there’s usually no way to salvage it - expensive or not.
Is it the wrong shade for the season?
As we move to autumn, put aside the light, shimmery shades that work with a summer glow: you need different shades and textures now. And, come spring, you’ll need to do the same thing again.
Is it embarrassing? Anything that’s broken, missing a lid or that’s nearly run out needs to go. Similarly, items that smell odd (a sign they’ve gone off) or are dirty and can’t be cleaned, also need to be thrown in the bin.
Have you been using it for years? If you’ve had certain staples in your kit for years, get a second opinion to see if they still suit you, or if it’s time to try something new. Ask an honest friend - you’re too used to how you look to determine if a product is working for you.
Do you have any ‘wow’ items? If you don’t have anything that gives you a special effect, like a gorgeous eyeliner or perhaps some eyelash curlers, you should probably invest in one.
There’s more to succeeding than natural ability. Here’s how to build your skill.
• Love Your Mistakes
We crave flawless performance, but mistakes strengthen talent. Each time you stumble, your mind sharpens as it tries to correct the mistake. To improve, reach just beyond your present ability. The gap between what you know and what you want to know is where you’ll learn most.
• Slow It Down
Going slowly lets your brain register what it’s doing at each step of the process. It’s like a working blueprint. For example, if you want to learn a piece of sheet music, cut it into strips, and select random strips to practice. Tackling individual components before attempting the whole task will help you to improve.
• Practice Doesn’t Always Make Perfect
Clocking up practice hours is only effective if you’re focused the whole time. Research shows that even world-class pianists, chess players and athletes only practice for three to five hours a day. After you depart the deep-practice zone there’s little benefit in carrying on. How long you stay in the zone differs for everyone. Stopping early doesn’t mean you aren’t dedicated.
• Reignite Motivation
Any talent requires motivational fuel-an emotional response such as fascination or love. It’s this emotional reaction that makes you learn faster, not innate skill. Talent needs passion to grow, so refresh yours by watching, listening to or reading about your hobby.
To some people, the need for sleep seems a sign of weakness. Getting by with less rest is the new macho – and women, especially, are buying into it. But while you’re asleep, every system in your body is being fine-tuned, reset, cleaned up and restored to its optimal operating mode by an army of molecular troubleshooters. New things you have learnt are being processed, memories are being organised and stored, and the immune system is building a new contingent of natural killer cells to fight off battalions of infectious agents. Growth hormone is being produced to repair damaged tissue (in adults) or build new tissue (in children) and to block the corrosive effects of stress.
When you sleep well, you’re in peak operating condition. When you don’t, you feel groggy and none of your systems is firing on all cylinders. You don’t think straight, make good decisions, remember where you parked the car or feel like making love. The resulting chemical glitches will put you on the fast track for heart disease, stroke, diabetes and even obesity.
Here are some surefire strategies from top specialists for a truly good night’s sleep.
The daily schedule
Wake up at the same time every day. A good night’s sleep actually starts in the morning. The second your eyes flutter open, light shoots down the optic nerve and into the brain’s biological clock. That stimulates production of hormones that regulate everything from how you think to how you feel.
"Sunlight activates the brain," says Frisca Yan-Go, medical director of the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) Sleep Disorders Centre. And activating it at the same time every morning teaches your body that at midnight it’s supposed to be asleep, and at noon it’s supposed to be awake.
Wake up at a different time every day and the clock is out of sync. You feel groggy and hungover for hours.
Give yourself an hour – the one right before bedtime. You need it to wind down and make the transition from the person-who-can-do-everything to the person-who-can-sleep. Unfortunately, most women are not giving themselves one single second. According to a 2007 poll by the US National Sleep Foundation, in the hour before bed about 60% of them do household chores, 37% take care of children, 36% do activities with other family members, 36% are on the internet, and 21% catch up on work.
Put yourself first. Women aren’t used to putting their needs ahead of others’, but sleep is so vital to health and happiness that we must make it a priority. If the dog’s snoring wakes you up, put him in another room. If your partner’s snoring wakes you up, help him get treatment. If he refuses to cooperate, put him in another room.
To some people, the need for sleep seems a sign of weakness. Getting by with less rest is the new macho – and women, especially, are buying into it. But while you’re asleep, every system in your body is being fine-tuned, reset, cleaned up and restored to its optimal operating mode by an army of molecular troubleshooters. New things you have learnt are being processed, memories are being organised and stored, and the immune system is building a new contingent of natural killer cells to fight off battalions of infectious agents. Growth hormone is being produced to repair damaged tissue (in adults) or build new tissue (in children) and to block the corrosive effects of stress.
When you sleep well, you’re in peak operating condition. When you don’t, you feel groggy and none of your systems is firing on all cylinders. You don’t think straight, make good decisions, remember where you parked the car or feel like making love. The resulting chemical glitches will put you on the fast track for heart disease, stroke, diabetes and even obesity.
Here are some surefire strategies from top specialists for a truly good night’s sleep.
The daily schedule
Wake up at the same time every day. A good night’s sleep actually starts in the morning. The second your eyes flutter open, light shoots down the optic nerve and into the brain’s biological clock. That stimulates production of hormones that regulate everything from how you think to how you feel.
"Sunlight activates the brain," says Frisca Yan-Go, medical director of the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) Sleep Disorders Centre. And activating it at the same time every morning teaches your body that at midnight it’s supposed to be asleep, and at noon it’s supposed to be awake.
Wake up at a different time every day and the clock is out of sync. You feel groggy and hungover for hours.
Once your dream has been launched, you’ll get really excited. But goals that are continually checked and overly worried about may not flourish in the way you wish them to. Imagine what you want is like a beautiful butterfly in your hands. If you squeeze too tightly, the butterfly will be crushed; if you hold your hands too loosely, the butterfly will simply fly away. The secret is to hold it gently
Do you harbour a secret yearning? Or perhaps you ditched your dreams long ago in the belief they’d never come true. Well, now it’s time to think big again with our life-changing plan for fulfilling your desires in seven easy steps. What’s stopping you?1. Make Your Dream MapEinstein - a man who knew a thing or two - said imagination was more important than knowledge. ‘Logics,’ he explained, ‘will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.’ So your first step in making your dream come true is to sit down with a piece of paper and a pen, and let your mind drift to the life you want. Imagine how you look? How do you feel in yourself? Are you fit and healthy, and how do you keep yourself so? Are you in a relationship - and if so, what’s it like? Where are you living? Describe your home. Tell yourself about your family and friends. Now, what’s your life’s work? Describe your job and your success. Make sure you do all of this in the present tense, and remember – let your imagination run riot. Let there be no boundaries. You’re living the life you desire.2. Use the Law of AttractionOnce you’ve started to visualise and really believe that your dreams can come true, it is perfectly possible that certain desires could land in your lap sooner than you realise. This is the Law of Attraction, also known as ‘The Secret’. The basic premise is that people’s thoughts (both conscious and unconscious) dictate the reality of their lives, whether or not they’re aware of it. Essentially, if you really want something and truly believe it’s possible, you’ll get it, but putting a lot of attention and thought on to something you don’t want means you’ll probably get that too.
3. Take Baby Steps
So, how do we go from knowing and visualising our dream, and letting self-doubt melt away, to actually making that dream a concrete reality? Take small steps that help achieve the big idea. Successful people may have grand plans, but they set themselves modest targets which they can achieve. In essence, without losing sight of your big dream, you give yourself mini-goals to achieve. If you’re sitting there, wondering how to measure three per cent, don’t bother, use the term three per cent as a way of describing your first goal: a goal you feel pretty sure of achieving.4. Hold Your Focus
Once your dream has been launched, you’ll get really excited. But goals that are continually checked and overly worried about may not flourish in the way you wish them to. Imagine, what you want is like a beautiful butterfly in your hands. If you squeeze too tightly, the butterfly will be crushed; if you hold your hands too loosely, the butterfly will simply fly away. The secret is to hold it gently.
The same is true in almost any area of our lives. There are two ways to succeed. Firstly, the hard way - tension plus continual action. Or there’s the easy way, typified by the equation - ease plus focus plus action plus inaction.
So how do we do things the second way? Cultivate ease by relaxing your body, being present in whatever you’re doing, rather than having your mind racing on to the next thing. The focus stage is all about following the Law of Attraction and this involves concentrating positively on your vision, truly inviting it and making it present.5. Take A Leap Of FaithAs your life becomes even more inspired every day, and you head further in the direction you want to take, there may still be moments when you need to check that you’re on the right path. To make sure you step into success you have to take those last leaps of faith.
We started with the big vision, got going with the mini-goals - or our three per cent efforts - and now we may need to make a bigger commitment.
When leaving our comfort zone, we recreate our lives according to what feels right and good to us. If you remain safe, you’ll never know what could have happened, and you may regret not trying.6. Enjoy The JourneyAsk yourself, ‘Why do I want to fulfil and live my dream?’ The chances are, ‘it’s because you want happiness and contentment.’ Don’t put this off, even when there are obstacles or challenges. Slow down, connect deeply with life, and experience beauty and sacredness.
Praying or meditating to a higher source, or simply taking a long walk in the countryside and breathing in the beauty and wonder that nature has to offer, can help you love your life. Connecting with others will also bring you joy, and even if you are having a ‘poor me’ moment, putting the focus on giving to another person immediately has the effect of taking your mind off your own problems.
The next time you’re in a conversation, practice being totally present. Tune out all other distractions and focus on hearing what’s being said. Listen with all your senses. Being totally present during your conversations is one of the greatest gestures of love you can offer.7. Note What You’ve AchievedYou know the way kids chant, ‘Are we there yet?’ five minutes after leaving home on a long car journey? This approach is best avoided when travelling towards your dream! However, every so often, it’s good to check in with your original vision and note what you’ve achieved, and what you still have to do. Take a moment to be grateful and count your blessings.
If you encounter disappointment, or a negative emotion connected to your dream, this could be due to being overly attached to it, and holding on too tightly, trying to control the outcome. Write your attachments individually on separate strips of paper and crinkle them up. Meditate on where you feel the attachment residing in your body. Do you feel tension in your stomach or head when you think about it? Blow the energy of each attachment on to your strips of paper. Toss them into a fire one at a time, focusing your energy on letting go. Notice how you feel the energy of your attachments as you let go.
The only real purpose of a goal is to inspire you to fall more deeply in love with life. Look deep within yourself. What’s your dream right now? Whether it’s the same, or changed, make sure you journey towards it with joy and wonder. Then you’ll really have arrived.
1. "Relax". Even though you might not be self-assured and comfortable in certain situations, fake it. It is essential to remember that there are a lot of fish out there, so even though you might ruin things with a girl, there are a lot of others you can try your hand with. But if you truly want a certain girl, you need to seem like you aren't really interested in her. By seeming desperate for female attention, women will not give you their time of day.
2. "Project". Imagine yourself in places completely surrounded by gorgeous girls. Then, picture yourself being really cool and suave without any confidence issues. Attempt to match this mindset to an imaginary world to make it come true.
3. "Control the Power".
One other way to battle confidence troubles would be to get rid of the female power of rejection. By staying cool and acting as if you aren't desperate for her, you will come to find that sexual tension will begin to build, so she will be the one who will be in pursuit of you.Anyway, you can make use of hypnosis if you really need to. One tactic known as fractionation will make sure you succeed every single time without any kind of trouble whatsoever. It is a highly powerful tactic that can help in bagging any girl you want to have sex with in merely fifteen minutes.
But before you use this technique, you must heed this warning...
Fractionation is considered as a 'dark art' tactic which is the basis of hypnosis-based seduction, and while controversial, it is known to be one of the most effective tactics ever invented by underground seductionists.
These psychology tactics are highly unconventional techniques that are used by the secret elite in the seduction community. Use at your own risk. I personally vouch for the effectiveness of these tactics, but care must be taken as they could be outright dangerous in the hands of the unscrupulous.
You most likely already know how to apply makeup for everyday use but there are a few things that are different in applying makeup for a model photo shoot.
It's not that difficult to learn and if you follow the tips below, you will be on your way to better makeup results for your model session.
Apply a heavier coat
The first key to model makeup is to simply fix your face as if you were going out for the evening, wearing more than for daytime use.
Create extra contrast and especially use more powder. I cannot stress powder enough. This is essential!
To achieve that natural look in your model portfolio, apply a little more than you would in your daily activities and even more than you would if you were going out for the evening.
When you look in the mirror you will feel that you are wearing too much makeup but remember that the studio lights will reduce the amount of makeup you have on so don't worry.
How do you achieve the model look? Follow the simple steps listed here and, with a little practice, you should be able to get the results you're after and have a successful makeup session.
Moisturizer & Concealer
First, moisturize your face thoroughly and then follow with concealer. The concealer you use for photos should be 2 or 3 shades lighter than your skin tone.
You will use concealer in order to hide blemishes, to lighten your eyes and you'll need concealer to hide any discoloration around the eyes or lips.
The Foundation
Now, you'll want to use a good, solid foundation and apply it evenly over the face.
Foundation application is very simple but is misunderstood by even some professional makeup artists.
Match the foundation to your chin and neckline. If you miss this step, you and the camera will see a sudden change of color from your face to the neck or upper chest.
Some makeup artists even apply makeup to the neck and shoulders! Why you ask? To match the body to the face. You will have no need to apply makeup to your body (except to hide blemishes) if you follow the suggestion of matching your makeup from the face to the neck.
When you have completed applying your foundation, just apply the rest of your facial makeup as you would normally but apply in heavier amounts for the camera and lights.
Powder
Powder! Powder! Powder! Be sure to remember the powder!
I'm sure you've seen makeup artists apply makeup to actors to get them ready for a TV show or the movies. If you have you must have noticed that the makeup artist is constantly patting the actors face with a powder applicator. Have you wondered why?
The reason is that powder, and lots of it, is nescessary to create that beautiful matte finish which is always present in a great portfolio. "But I never use powder." you may say. Even so, please use it for your model photo shoot. Powder makes the difference between a beautiful photo and just a photo.
When applying powder, use a lighter shade under the eyes to help eliminate any shadows or dark circles that the concealer didn't take care of.
Applying Facial Makeup - The Oval Look
Now that you understand the importance of using powder, apply makeup below your cheekbones and under your chin to create an oval look to the face. Be sure to blend the makeup in and not create distinct lines. Put this makeup on a little darker but not too heavy.
Lip Color
In order for your lips to stand out and be noticed, be sure that your lip gloss is a solid color and at least one shade deeper than you normally wear it.
Your lip liner should be the same color as your lipstick.
DO NOT WEAR BLACK LIP LINER!
Stay away from any frosted lip colors entirely because they hardly show up on film and will give the illusion that you are not wearing lip color at all. The only time you would wear frosted is when it's for some effect the photographer wants to accomplish.
Blush
Apply your blush a little heavier than normal but neatly and precisely. Don't over or under apply blush. This will also be in accordance to the effect you or your photographer want to accomplish with your look for this particular model shoot.
Eye Makeup
In order to produce the best results, your eye liner needs to be applied starting from the outside of the lower part of the eye and extending about 3/4 length toward the inner part.
Really work on those eyes and lips. These are the two key features in a model photo shoot as with just about any other people photography so get this right!
You'll need to use an eye shadow to compliment the rest of your makeup and clothing but use a light shade so that your eyes will appear more alive.
Start by applying your eye shadow to the upper eye lid and above the eye just below the eyebrow.
The reason you'll want this a light shade is because a darker shade will create an illusion of darkening of the eyes and will give the appearance that you did not get enough sleep the night before which is not going to be very flattering to you. Stay with a light eye shadow to be sure and create the best results for your eyes. If done right, the person looking at your photos will be drawn in directly to your eyes first which is what you normally want to achieve.
Take it With You!
Lastly, be sure and take your makeup case with you to your model photo shoot. You will need to touch up your makeup during the photo shoot and will always need to add powder as the day moves on. The photographer or makeup artist will not likely have your brand and you certainly don't want to halt the shoot while you go home for more makeup.
Do your best to follow these steps when applying makeup for your model photo shoot and you should get good results from your photo session.
If you plan to do your own model makeup, please apply your makeup before leaving home for the session to make the photo shoot go faster and smoother.
A good perfume or cologne could prove to be an expensive affair for many people. However, it can give the best value for money rather than fragrances like deodorants, body sprays and colognes.
How to choose fragrances is a question which many people are perplexed about. You can choose a perfume which has the capacity of staying for a longer period of time. Just a whiff of perfume is sufficient to keep you smelling great for many hours.
Perfumes act well and give you enough relief when you are crammed in a crowded bus. If you want to hike your appeal to impress a guy or a gal, you can do a little bit of investigation before you go for the perfect fragrance. You need to find out his or her favorite fragrance and dab some of that perfume. If you can feel some chemistry simmering, you can noticed in a jiffy of time. Here are some tips on how to carry perfume or cologne in style:
Perfume etiquette
It is not apt to drench in perfume just because you enjoy the fragrance. If you do apply too much of perfume on your body, your humongous cloud of vapor will follow you wherever you go and it can leave people choking on the smell for hours after you leave the place.
Here are some tips how to choose fragrances:
Choose your perfume depending on the occasion you want to use it for.
A party, a meeting with couple of people, a day at the office, a corporate event demands a little sophistication and hence you can choose to go with a mild scent that does not jerk an unsuspecting nostril.
If you want to make a splash at a wedding or a party, go in for stronger perfume, but don’t go for anything that is too loud.
Applying perfume
The fragrance will sustain for a longer period and you will not soil your clothes.
Do not rub your wrists together after spraying on perfume as this tends to reduce the effect of the top layer of perfume.
If you like to be flamboyant you can splash some perfume into the air and walk through it and get soaked in perfume!
You should keep the spray away from your nostrils. Otherwise you might end up inhaling the chemicals. This could cause breathing trouble.
How much perfume should you apply? One round of application to all the mentioned pulse points will do. If you tend to perspire a lot, you could go in for round two of application.
